Being a parent nowadays has become an exhausting task. Not because of all the time you spend with your kid, but because of all the new self-appointed doctors and advisors who publish thousands of worthless articles.
Even the best scientists are claiming that the basics of raising a moral child haven’t changed at all.
Every parent wants their kids to achieve their goals and find true happiness. To help you do so, we are presenting you a list of 6 advises/task recommended by Harvard researchers. They say a few tried-and-true strategies remain the best ways to mold your kids into the morally upstanding and goals-oriented humans you want them to be.
- Hang out with your kids.
The basics of human interactions start at early age. That is why it is crucial for you to be inquisitive with your children. Do not hesitate to ask them all kinds of question. That way you will learn what are their interests and opinion and most importantly you will teach them how to show concern for others. The trick is to spend more time with them in order to teach them as much as you can and get to understand how they act.
- If it matters, say it out loud.
This is not only common sense; it is also a recommendation from scientists. Many studies are claiming that people spend more time spoiling their kids with the wrong kind of attention. Instead of babysitters, caretakers and gifts of sorts; you should be spending more time with your kids. Be sure to explain everything you can to them and commend or reprimand them regarding their action. Check with the correct authority figures in their life such as, teachers, tutors, coaches to get to know whether your kid is doing what it is supposed to and how it is doing it. This is one of the most important character builders.
- Show your child how to “work it out.”
One of the most important skills in life, whether as a kid or adult is decision-making. Here it is most important to show your kid that you support them, but also be inquisitive. Start by asking them what is their on-hand problem. Do not only show support because kids are kids and they do not have proper views on situation surrounding them. Try teaching them how to identify problem and how to solve their problems. What would they be gaining or losing by that act. And most importantly see if their solution is the proper one for the existing problem.
- Make helpfulness and gratitude routine.
The researchers write, “Studies show that people who engage in the habit of expressing gratitude are more likely to be helpful, generous, compassionate, and forgiving — and they’re also more likely to be happy and healthy.” It would be easy enough to ask your children to help their siblings or other relatives. Teaching them to be grateful and appreciative and thank them for every action they take. Try teaching them to understand that good deeds like helping others should be a daily routine. And always praise the extra effort they show.
- Check your child’s destructive emotions.
At this point, inquisitiveness is a great tool. With asking them question on any topic you’ll get to understand their emotions too. Whether it is joy, anger, pride, shame, goodwill, envy or any other, you need to help your kid process that emotion. Not only help them understand, but at the first instance you need to help them come to a safe resolution. This will lead to them being a caring and good person.
- Show your kids the bigger picture.
Showing your kids to see the bigger picture in life can be tricky but it is very important. This means getting them to care about people who are culturally, socially and geographically outside their circles. You can do this by coaching them to be good listeners, by encouraging them to put themselves in other people’s shoes, and by practicing empathy using teachable moments in news and entertainment.
“Raising a caring, respectful, ethical child is and always has been hard work. But it’s something all of us can do. And no work is more important or ultimately more rewarding.”